Real newlyweds give wedding planning tips based on their experience.
Adrienne and Shawn Gruber’s wedding took place on Oct. 6, 2017, at Noah’s Event Venue.
If you could do anything about your wedding differently, what would you change and why?
Overall everything went super smooth—the one issue we had was our guests went through a lot more alcohol in the open bar than the vendor allotted for, so just make sure there is clarity with that and plan for the what-if.
What are you happy you spent money on?
An all-in-one venue and amazing photographer, plus getting a videographer. I didn't think I cared about that as much since we spent extra on the photographer. But after seeing our video and being able to relive the day through that, I'm glad friends kept saying I should do it.
What do you think you could have done without?
I spent a lot of hours on creating and putting the ceremony programs together myself and was bummed when I saw that over half of them were still in the basket at the end of the night.
What was your biggest surprise when planning your wedding?
How so many things fell into place—friends reached out with referrals for florists, photographers and hair/makeup, and then I just stumbled upon the venue and dress boutique. So those things that I worried about where to begin to look just fell in my lap.
What do you wish you'd known before you started planning?
How hard the guest list was really going to be and that even when you thought you figured it out, there are still going to be people that get upset they weren't invited.
Did you experience any wedding-day snafus?
Just running out of alcohol about an hour early—the venue staff was great in rushing around to try to replenish the stock the best they could.
Did you and your fiancé get into any silly arguments?
We really didn't—he did all the work planning the engagement surprise, so I got to take the reins with planning the wedding.
Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?
I was a control freak and wanted everything to look perfect, but there are going to be so many people around you are willing to help you—so just let them and enjoy the process!
Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?
We’re five months in and the most common advice I read and was given was to continue to date each other. We make it a priority to still have date night and even made a date night jar so it's a fun surprise to do each week.