Real newlyweds give wedding planning tips based on their experience.
Lindsey and James Boyd’s wedding took place on June 3, 2017, at James’ parents’ house.
If you could do anything about your wedding differently, what would you change and why?
Make sure to have catering set a meal aside for myself and the groom. I did not get to enjoy the wonderful meal that we provided to our guests because I was up chatting with loved ones. It would have been nice to have the food later that evening when things settled down!
What are you happy you spent money on?
The band! Dancing was my favorite part of the wedding, and I couldn’t have done this without our wonderful, lively band.
What do you think you could have done without?
We printed so many wedding programs; I had a ton left over. I do not think that I needed to order one for every person
What was your biggest surprise when planning your wedding?
I am an event coordinator, so I knew what to expect. I can speak for my husband and say that he was surprised by how much everything costs. Even hosting our wedding at his parents’ house, we had to bring in every rental item (tent, restrooms, lighting, catering, chairs, tables, dance floor, etc.), and that adds up very quickly.
What do you wish you'd known before you started planning?
How quickly time flies!
Did you experience any wedding-day snafus?
I did not find this out until later, but the catering team who was serving the wine did not tell me that I forgot to get them the white wine. I had tons of cases of white wine in the basement. I wish that they would have pointed this out to me, because I didn't have time to notice.
Did you and your fiancé get into any silly arguments?
Our only disagreements were about budget. Being an event coordinator, I knew exactly what I wanted and found it difficult to “settle” on anything. I have seen so many events and know that it is true, you get what you pay for. Our arguments were me trying to defend my decisions on things that we “needed to have.”
Any dress shopping advice?
I would suggest only going with a few, close people (mother, maid of honor). The first time I went, I took six-plus people. Too many opinions at one time—it can be overwhelming, especially for someone who does not enjoy all of the attention at once.
Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?
This is going to sound cliché, but it is true: The whole process moves so quickly. From the time that you get engaged to the moment you wake up the morning after your wedding, it is a whirlwind. I would say to just enjoy it. Enjoy the fun parts of planning, enjoy the not-so-fun details of planning. I woke up the morning after our wedding wanting to do it all over again! It was a great night; I was sad it was over. At that time, I was wishing that I could get some of those moments back—just enjoy!
Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?
Start talking about money and budget and how you are going to split things—or not split things [after you’re married]. We still are trying to figure out what works for us. Just know that there isn't a right answer; find a way that works for you two and go for it!