Real newlyweds give wedding planning tips based on their experience.
Christine and Brian Palmiero’s wedding took place on Sept. 8, 2018, at Pinnacle Golf Club.
If you could do anything about your wedding differently, what would you change and why?
Christine: I would definitely live in the moment and enjoy everything around me a bit more, and perhaps not pack my wedding timeline and activities back to back to back. That way you can stop and smell the roses—literally!
Brian: Everything turned out perfectly. If I had to nitpick, I would have had the groomsmen in bow ties and me in a long tie instead of the other way around.
What are you happy you spent money on?
C: I am happy that I spent the extra money on a reception dress in addition to my wedding dress. Dress two was a white baby doll dress that was super-cute and a bit easier to dance in.
B: A high-quality photographer.
C: We will have amazing photos that last a lifetime. It wasn't just Nancy, but a whole team with her so we wouldn't miss any heartfelt moments!
What do you think you could have done without?
C: In my opinion I couldn't have done without anything; everything we incorporated into the wedding was useful and elegant.
B: Buying 200 things of bubbles for everyone, because not many people used them when we walked back down the aisle after the ceremony!
C: OK, the bubble tubes placed on everyone's chairs.
What was your biggest surprise when planning your wedding?
B: How dreadful putting together the seating chart is!
C: The biggest surprise was how much work, effort, time, creativity, coordinating, planning and money really goes into a wedding. I had no idea how big the task really was. Thank goodness for my amazing mother-in-law, aunt and cousin-in-law, who all love to plan and have planned weddings before. I would have been lost without their help.
What do you wish you’d known before you started planning?
C: How hectic things can get.
B: How many elements I wouldn’t naturally think of that go into a wedding. All the table decorations, flowers, centerpieces, down to how much of a task making seating arrangements is.
Did you experience any wedding-day snafus?
C: Our wedding ceremony was supposed to be outside in a courtyard under a beautiful arch, as well as cocktail hour outside on a beautiful, huge patio. Well, it had rained on our big day. I was very upset and disappointed. Friends and family reassured me that it was good luck when it rained on your big day and the venue, Pinnacle, had set up a beautiful [backup plan] in their banquet hall. It actually turned out almost better than initially expected. Their chandeliers and lighting made it so elegant. My mother-in-law ordered more flowers to [use] inside and it turned out amazing.
B: Not leaving enough time the morning of to get ready at a comfortable pace. We both had multiple people running around and helping us, which helped out a lot.
Did you and your fiancé get into any silly arguments?
B: She was adding costs for things I thought weren’t important—certain decorative items—but after seeing it at the wedding, I am happy we went forward with it.
C: Thank goodness I have a husband that allowed me to make most decisions. He assured me he's happy if I'm happy.
Any dress-shopping advice?
C: My advice would be to take your time in searching for your dress. ... Really do your research on what type of dress and style you would like, and then try different styles on first. What style I initially loved didn't look too good on my body type. To my surprise, a style of dress I would have least thought would have fit my body type looked amazing on me! Don't be afraid to try new things.
What about menswear?
B: Don’t go too tight on the clothing, or else it will be hard to hug people and dance!
Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?
C: Enjoy every moment. Soak it all in and understand how special the process is, even when it gets stressful at times. Don't forget why you're doing all this.
B: It is normal to feel stress and anxiety when planning a wedding. Try not to let these totally normal feelings cause tension between you and your soon-to-be spouse! Remember, this is a happy occasion!
Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?
C: Put your faith in God and His plan for the two of you. Lean on one another and fully surrender to the connection of being husband and wife. You're now connected under the Lord's eye, lawfully and spiritually. Love your friends and family who surround you, and never forget your vows to one another in hard times.
B: Don’t sweat the small stuff, and cherish every moment you have with your loved one. Always support each other. Try to find a good balance between emotions and logic when giving advice.