Real newlyweds give wedding planning tips based on their experience.
Jaimie and Aaron Rodger’s wedding took place on June 9, 2018, at The Trout Club.
If you could do anything about your wedding differently, what would you change and why?
Jaimie: Even though having a wedding outdoors is fabulous, the risk of rain causes a lot of unwanted stress.
Aaron: Looking back, we should’ve had the band in a more secure location that wasn’t weather-dependent. They had the option of setting up outside or inside.
J: I should’ve made them set up inside from the beginning instead of taking the chance!
A: We didn’t get to enjoy our band because of the rain. Sometimes taking the risk isn’t worth it!
What are you happy you spent money on?
J: Photographers we love! I also considered not doing a video, but I’m so glad we did.
A: We truly enjoyed our photographers and budgeting for a video as well.
J: I also spent more on my dress than what I originally thought I would, but I felt like a princess. It was well worth it.
What do you think you could have done without?
J: We took the minimalist viewpoint on planning our wedding; less is more. We had just what we needed!
A: We didn’t do favors for this very reason; simple is more! Nothing went to waste.
What was your biggest surprise when planning your wedding?
A: I didn’t realize how time-consuming every task would be. From designing our save-the-dates and wedding invitations to music playlists and yard games—all of this took more time than I ever could’ve imagined, but it was our dreams and ideas that came to life.
J: I didn’t expect that family members would ever be upset by our wedding goals—it’s our day! If we don’t want to be traditional, that’s our choice.
What do you wish you’d known before you started planning?
A: I wish I would’ve known how much family stress can happen when planning a wedding. Everyone wants to be involved and impose ideas, which is usually appreciated, but we had to stand our ground on a few things that caused some unexpected stress.
J: The best advice I got from a friend before the wedding was to make our day a dream party for ourselves! Yes, our guests mean the world to us, but we held our ground and made our day [about] our personalities. Everyone loved it. I’m so glad I was able to get this advice.
Did you experience any wedding-day snafus?
A: The weather was unpredictable and significantly changed our reception vibe, but we moved everything indoors and kept partying!!
J: My cousin—and lifelong best friend—has done my hair for every big occasion in my life, so of course I wanted her to be the one on our big day! The day before, her baby became sick and she couldn’t come. Our other best friend, Tanya, stepped up to the plate instantly. She was already planning to do my makeup, but she didn’t have much experience with formal hair styles. She looked through photos I collected and turned my hair into a masterpiece in 20 minutes. I felt like a princess. We were both pleasantly surprised!
Did you and your fiancé get into any silly arguments?
A: We really didn’t argue about anything. We have very similar taste.
J: We never argued, but I did have to cave on which rooms we used from the bride and groom suites. He wanted the bigger room with windows overlooking the golf course. The other room was nice, but didn’t have windows or much lighting. I wanted the windows for natural light for my makeup! It was a big deal for him, so I gave in. We had to do my makeup in my villa on my bed to have the best light. So my photos of getting ready are in a messy hotel room!
Any dress-shopping advice?
J: Go with your gut. I went dress shopping by myself, and I absolutely loved it. I had no one influencing my decision. I had a friend come see me in the dress after I had been shopping all day just to make sure I wasn’t crazy. She gave two thumbs up, and that was it!
What about menswear?
A: Start early! We had a hard time finding suits that were reasonably priced that also fit our body types. My brother had just gotten married a few months prior, so I didn’t want to break the bank as everyone had to get another suit. I ended up getting a slim fit in a completely different suit than my brothers, who needed classic fits. Suits I liked didn’t come in sizes needed for my brothers. It took a long time to find a match, and I didn’t even have them wear the coats.
Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?
A: Allow enough time so you don’t rush into any decisions. Never settle.
J: It’s a give and take. Be equally involved.
Editor’s note: Aaron gave another piece of advice, which turned out to be nearly identical to Jaimie’s! How cute is that?
Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?
J: Marriage is the most intimate partnership we will ever experience. It won’t be perfect! We’ve had unexpected challenges, but we get to work through it together.
A: Never stop communicating. Marriage results in new roles and responsibilities; it’s a learning experience. You both grow together.
Editor’s note: Again, we saw some overlap in the couple’s responses, which were collected independently of one another. Both emphasized to “never stop communicating,” which we assume the Rodgers can do telepathically!