Lessons Learned: Advice from Alisia and Ward Mitzel

Emma Frankart Henterly

Each issue of our magazine features an advice column of sorts; it’s a Q&A with the newlyweds whose photos appear in the issue. They share tips and advice based on what they learn while planning their own events. Because we can’t possibly share all the great counsel they share in the pages of the magazine, we started this weekly series to pass their wisdom on to you.

Alisia and Ward Mitzel’s wedding took place on Sept. 17, 2016, at the Annunciation Greek Orthodox Cathedral. The pair answered the questions below as a unit instead of individually.

What are you happy you spent money on?

A high-quality photographer, flowers—I love having greenery, and outdoor elements to help liven up an indoor venue—and a GREAT DJ.

What do you think you could have done without?

Nothing; everything worked out perfectly.

What do you wish you'd known before you started planning?

How stressful everything can be if you make it that. It doesn't have to be. Have fun with it and make sure that, if it is something you really want, you get it.

Did you experience any wedding-day snafus, and how did you handle them?

Rain was the only downfall of our wedding, which really wasn't a thing; we just weren't able to have cocktail hour outside. In the end, it wasn't that bad.

Any advice for attire?

Have the groomsmen buy suits. I feel you get a lot more for your money—they aren't wasting their money on a tux rental that they have to return the next day—and they can wear them again.

Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?

Do not stress the small stuff. On the day of, it ends up not meaning anything and you are just happy to be getting married.

Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?

Go on dates, cook dinner for each other—or together. It's too easy to get comfortable and stop doing the things you did when you are dating. Have fun! And just enjoy each other.