Lessons Learned: Advice from Rylie and Ben Meer

Emma Frankart Henterly

Each issue of our magazine features an advice column of sorts; it’s a Q&A with the newlyweds whose photos appear in the issue. They share tips and advice based on what they learn while planning their own events. Because we can’t possibly share all the great counsel they share in the pages of the magazine, we started this weekly series to pass their wisdom on to you.

Ben and Rylie Meer’s wedding took place on Dec. 17, 2016, at St. Christopher’s Church.

What are you happy you spent money on?

Rylie and Ben: We wanted to have good food, music and a great photographer. We were able to find all three. I think the biggest thing for us was to have a photographer that was laid back and worked with us on what we wanted. We hit a home run with Benjamin Derkin of Derk’s Works.

What do you think you could have done without in your wedding?

Everything turned out really well. We didn't have anything leftover.

What do you wish you'd known before you started planning?

How far in advance you need to book vendors. We were lucky that there were open dates in December for all the places/vendors we wanted.

Did you experience any wedding-day snafus, and how did you handle them?

We had an ice storm overnight and the morning of, but it turned out really well for our photos.

What’s your advice for attire?

B: Grooms, find something you feel good wearing. We opted for a midnight blue suit, and it was a good cut for me and looked great for a winter wedding.

R: I highly recommend Trousseau Bridal. Meg provided a very personalized experience and exceeded my expectations.

Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?

Relax. Everything won't be perfect, but it can still be perfect for you. And that's ok.

Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?

Talk to each other. Don't assume the other person knows what you are saying or what you mean. Be nice. Enjoy it.