Lessons Learned: Advice from Katie and Evan Taylor

Emma Frankart Henterly

Katie and Evan Taylor’s wedding took place on Oct. 5, 2018, at the Medallion Club.

If you could do anything about your wedding differently, what would you change and why?    

Katie: I don’t think I’d change anything. All the details were created by us, as we didn’t have a wedding planner, and it made it more meaningful to us.

Evan: I would’ve had a larger bridal party than what had to incorporate more of our friends and family.

What are you happy you spent money on?        

K: Dress, photographer, cake and venue.

E: Our photographers were worth every penny and then some. They worked with us on many occasions with planning and execution.

What do you think you could have done without?          

K: We spent extra on a classic car to leave in, while we had our guests leaving in a bus. We probably could have taken the bus with everyone else.

What was your biggest surprise when planning your wedding?               

E: How many little things pop up needing to be completed and just when you think you’re on top of them, something else comes up.

What do you wish you’d known before you started planning?  

K: Where to start with a guest list. We really didn’t think this would be our biggest obstacle. We kept our wedding at a reasonable size, so we had to draw the line on who to invite without hurting feelings.

E: To slow down and enjoy the day. Everything was going so fast the day of the wedding and with so much emotion, it went way too fast. I would have loved to just take a breath and enjoy every moment of the day.

Did you experience any wedding-day snafus?

K: The men’s tuxes were not all in on time, especially the groom’s,

E: Luckily, we visited the place days before the wedding, so they could over night the tuxedo.

K: And parts were missing. Luckily someone found buttons for the groom’s shirt just in time.

E: It was very nerve-wracking, but all we could do was hope it would work out—and in the end, it did.

Did you and your fiancé get into any silly arguments?   

K: We didn’t get everyone’s addresses in a timely manner for save-the-date cards. So we agreed that when the invitations had to be made, they would go out in plenty of time in case we missed anyone.

E: More of a disagreement on wearing a cummerbund with the tuxedo. I didn’t want to wear one at all, but after thinking about it I agreed. I didn’t think it was worth getting upset over an article of clothing you would never see, and it would make her happy.

Any dress-shopping advice?

K: Try on a variety of styles; I had a wonderful experience at Wendy’s Bridal. They had me try what I liked, but also what may be best on my body. They told me I need to wear the dress and not have the dress wear me. Sounds silly, but it was the best advice.

What about menswear?

E: Go early. We went about a month before the wedding, but earlier might be better. I would also touch base with the tuxedo shop a week or two beforehand to make sure it was ordered.

Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?             

K: Have fun with the process; don’t stress over the little stuff. The day is about the two of you, so focus on each other.

E: Enjoy the experience—hopefully this will be the only time you get married—and don’t let the bride plan everything. Yes, they are going to be particular on many things, but helping along the way goes a long way.

Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?

K: “You are married for life,” is what my husband and I tell each other. No matter what happens in life, you are a team; always know you can count on each other.

E: We didn’t do a marriage counseling beforehand, but I have heard others saying great things and still use what they’ve learned years later. In our case, we had already purchased a house and lived together almost two years prior. Living together first, I believe, let us know we could handle and get through anything together.