Lessons Learned: Advice from Molly and Rob Patridge

Emma Frankart Henterly

Molly and Rob Patridge’s wedding took place on Dec. 8, 2017, at First Community Church.

If you could do anything about your wedding differently, what would you change and why?    

Rob: Nothing; it was super easy-going day.

Molly: I probably would not get married at a church. We aren't overly religious, and I think having [both] the ceremony and reception at The Athletic Club of Columbus would have been easier on us and our guests—traveling and finding parking [Downtown] is not always fun.

What are you happy you spent money on?        

R: Our wedding coordinator, Emily [Messinger] of Exhale Events, and our photographer, Chris Keels.

M: I was so pleased with our reception venue, The Athletic Club of Columbus. I also loved working with Chris Keels; his photography is amazing. The thing that I was most pleased with was hiring a wedding coordinator for month-of services. Thanks to Emily at Exhale Events, our wedding was smooth sailing.

What do you think you could have done without?          

M: We had a bowling party [at The Athletic Club] after our reception. We bought footie socks for people to use, and no one really used them.

What was your biggest surprise when planning your wedding?               

R: How much planning is involved.

M: How much I enjoyed it! We were engaged a year and half, and it seemed like the perfect amount of time for wedding planning. My mom and I mostly worked on the planning aspects, and Rob was super supportive about the decisions that were made.

What do you wish you’d known before you started planning?  

R: How much everything would cost.

M: Overall I felt prepared. I had read a lot of books and magazines, and got great advice from people who had recently planned weddings.

Did you experience any wedding-day snafus?

M: The woman who altered my dress [said] that my dress did not need to be bustled. Surprise—my dress did need to be bustled. Emily, our wedding coordinator, used safety pins and needle and thread to bustle my dress at our reception because I had been tripping over my dress all day!

R: When I grabbed the wrong socks, [but] Emily had a spare pair.

Did you and your fiancé get into any silly arguments?   

R: Arguing about the order of our wedding party heading down the aisle. We let the church coordinator pick.

M: We had a pretty funny bicker session a couple weeks before the wedding when we decided we should practice our first dance around 11:30 p.m. one Saturday night. We had Crest Whitestrips on our teeth, dress shoes on, and were wearing our pajamas—and were getting so annoyed with each other for messing up. We took a couple days [off] from dancing, scaled back on choreography, and enjoyed ourselves instead of stress.

Any dress-shopping advice?

M: We had such a fun time shopping at LUXEredux. They made me feel like a queen. I would say lower your expectations, be open-minded, and you might be surprised at the dress you will find that will make you feel amazing.

What about menswear?

R: Make sure your shoes are comfortable.

Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?             

R: Enjoy your day when the time comes, and don't fret on the little things.

M: Do not … get stuck on making a Pinterest wedding. Make it about having the best party with your favorite people! The little cutesy details are great in theory, but that is not what it's all about.

Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?

M: Do marriage counseling before, or the Prepare/Enrich offered through your church. It offers great strategies to keep in your toolbox for years to come.