Lessons Learned: Advice from Kara and Jordan Aron

Emma Frankart Henterly

Kara and Jordan Aron’s wedding took place on May 26, 2019, at the Columbus Museum of Art.

If you could do anything about your wedding differently, what would you change and why?    

Jordan: Doubled our dessert table order! We ordered extra and it was still not enough!

Kara: I would not have sent out postcard save the dates and would have upgraded to normal cards. We had a lot of issues with the postcards getting lost in the mail and guests receiving them up to two months late or even not receiving them at all. The same thing has happened to a couple of my friends. It wasn’t worth the small extra cost we saved in the end for all the hassle.

What are you happy you spent money on?        

J: Band (The Conspiracy Band) and photographer (Style & Story).

K: No. 1 would 100 percent be the band—the music can make or break a wedding, and Conspiracy was incredible and kept the dance floor packed all night long, which is exactly what we wanted. Also our photographer and a full-service wedding planner (Aisle & Co.).

What do you think you could have done without?          

J: I honestly can’t think of anything. Nothing went unused, everything was eaten.

K: It truly was all perfect.

What was your biggest surprise when planning your wedding?

K: What random things I would care about that I never would have assumed, like the chairs at the venue or seeing a floral mockup prior to the day.

J: How much time I spent on the phone with my future in-laws!

What do you wish you’d known before you started planning?  

K: How expensive everything is!

J: How many little details there are to plan—fonts, napkin colors, timeline, etc.—thankfully our full-service planner helped with most of that.

Did you experience any wedding-day snafus?

J: Kara’s dress back broke before the reception; we were planning a lift during our first dance but had to quickly come up with new moves.

K: Jordan and I were practicing our first dance in my dress for the first time during cocktail hour, and the back hook actually ended up snapping as we practiced the “Dirty Dancing” lift. Luckily, our planner had all the safety pins, tape, etc. to help secure it, and we modified the dance to not include the lift. It was totally fine the entire night and you couldn’t even tell!

J: Nobody was the wiser!

K: However, at the end of the night, we ended up doing the lift anyways because at that point, who cares? You only wear the dress once, right?! (Spoiler: We totally nailed the lift.)

The other thing that happened was my uncle, our officiant, forgot to say “you may kiss the bride.” With our heightened emotions and excitement, we never kissed after we were pronounced man and wife before we walked back down the aisle! I was a little bummed initially, but Rodney had us do our “first” kiss during our grand entrance after we came in, so it all worked out!

Did you and your fiancé get into any silly arguments?   

J: Oh, all the time! Usually it was us taking a step back and understanding the bigger picture that what may seem as something big to us in the moment, 99 percent of people wouldn’t notice a difference.

K: Typically our arguments consisted of me being stressed about some random small details and him telling me “it’s fine, we have a planner, we can just show up on May 29th and it’ll all be set!” Eventually we met in the middle and would set aside a designated time each week to handle wedding stuff. It helped him understand why we had to address certain issues and couldn’t leave it up to Natasha [at Aisle & Co.], and me to focus on those time periods and not stress out consistently.

Any dress-shopping advice?

K: My advice is more for alterations than for the dress shopping: Do not be afraid to speak up about exactly what is or is not working. This is literally their job—to make changes—so you will not offend them (more than likely, they didn’t make this dress), and they will never know if you don’t tell them. They aren’t mind readers!

What about menswear?

J: Custom life is best life.

Do you have any general advice for couples currently planning their weddings?             

K: Soak everything in on the big day so you can remember every moment—it flies by so fast and will be the best day of your life.

J: At the end of the day, this is your day. No matter what happens, people are here to celebrate you, and there is nothing better than being surrounded by your family and friends.

K: Also, do a first look so you can make it to your cocktail hour! It will give you more time to spend with your guests and take photos with your friends, which likely your photographer will not capture during the reception. Not to mention, the first look was such a special moment for just the two of us and a memory I will cherish forever.

Do you have any general marriage advice, as a newlywed?

K: Keep an open line of communication, and make sure you don’t take your relationship for granted. Continue to plan fun date nights and experiences with each other.

J: After spending a year or more planning a wedding, everything else is easy. Enjoy it!