Saying “Thanks” to Your Wedding Party

Nancy Byron
Lenox Tuscany Craft Beer Collection glasses

Your wedding wouldn't be the same without your closest friends and family members. So finding the right gifts for your bridal party, as well as the other key players in your day, has become almost as important as finding the right wedding gown.

“These people are making a huge contribution to your wedding; they've worked really hard to make your wedding happen, and couples are recognizing that,” says Julie Easterling, a Wedding My Stylist@Macy's executive based at Easton. “A large portion—probably 80 percent—of couples are buying something for those extra people, too: the flower girl, the ring bearer, the ushers, the readers, the people who threw your showers, the parents … Just think about the whole wedding process and who helped you through it. For every couple, that list is going to be different.”

Before couples start fretting about adding more line items to their wedding budget, Easterling notes it's the sentiment more than the dollar amount that matters.

“Make it something personal,” she says. “For someone who loves wine, the Rabbit wine opener is a really cool corkscrew and not a huge investment. We also have LAFCO candles made in hand-blown glass containers. We have a line of jewelry that are sterling silver state pendants—Ohio, California, Florida, wherever they're from or went to college. We have a hand-tooled Italian leather journal [that] would be a marvelous gift for a shower host/hostess or a reader.”

Easterling adds that personal care items, such as a gift card to the Bluemercury spa at Easton's Macy's or a Clarisonic facial cleansing set, are particularly popular.

For the bride's attendants, think plush robes and jewelry. For groomsmen, cigar cutters, watches and beer tasting glassware are en vogue. So are silly dress socks.

For couples who prefer to give the same gift to all those in the wedding party, classic sunglasses such as Ray Ban Wayfarers can be a hit.

“Think Tom Cruise in ‘Cocktail,' ” Easterling says. “Also, Delsey makes a garment bag that is a permanent version of a dress bag, and you can monogram it with their initials.”

For parents, a gift card for a facial or hand massage at Bluemercury or a luxury sheet set would be appropriate. “It's a nice way of saying, ‘Have a good night's sleep after all your hard work,' ” Easterling says.

“It doesn't have to be a high-stress situation. We can make suggestions. We can work within a budget,” she adds. “You just want your gift to reflect how much you appreciate them.”